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Experts told that you can learn about parents from the drawings of the child

“My son never draws in pictures, where he depicts our family, the younger sister, as if she does not exist,” the mother of a 5-year-old child worries. “My daughter always paints herself separately from my husband and I,” the parents of the first grader complain.

Of course, it is impossible to fully understand the problems of the child and his attitude towards the family only by his art. However, experts are sure that many of the “pain points” of the baby can be easily identified by what and how he draws.

What can the drawings tell about the child, his emotional state and attitude towards loved ones? We tried to figure it out with a child psychologist.

How to interpret what your kids are portraying

Unfortunately, sometimes attentive parents are sure that the child feels comfortable in the family, even if this is not entirely true, – explains the child psychologist Yulia Krotova. – An ordinary child’s drawing can tell adults a lot about the baby’s condition even without going to a specialist. Understanding will help adults smooth out the negative and create a comfortable environment for the child. Of course, there is practically no point in evaluating the drawings of babies under three years old, they do not objectively reflect the child’s inner state and his relationship to adults. Children’s creativity becomes really informative from 4-5 years old. Also, you should not evaluate a picture of a child if it is drawn immediately after some kind of family conflict or quarrel. Obviously, the drawing will show only the child’s attitude to the current situation, and not his state and perception of his family as a whole.

Experts believe that one of the most effective ways to diagnose intra-family relationships is the “My Family” drawing test. With a correct assessment, you can get the most complete information from it. To conduct the test, you just need to ask the child to draw his family the way he wants.


Black dad and lonely kid

A case from one’s life: Alina from the Moscow Region noticed that her eldest 5-year-old son became very capricious and withdrawn after the birth of her younger sister. The My Family drawing showed unexpected results. The kid depicted himself on the left side of the sheet next to the grandmother and the cat. Mom and her sister were on the other side of the sheet, and dad was drawn in the middle of the composition and carefully shaded in black, the rest of the family were painted in bright colors.

Psychologist’s comment: In the drawing of his son, Alina was most excited by the fact that the boy depicted his father in black, although in this situation it did not matter much and happened by accident. After talking with the child, it turned out that recently the man most often wore a dark jacket and trousers, which is why the son painted it with a black pencil. In such a picture, you can talk about the reasons for the baby’s anxiety by the composition, that is, by the way the characters are placed in the picture. The child clearly feels deprived of the attention of the parents, unnecessary for them after the birth of a younger sister. Based on the picture, we can say that lately he has developed close relationships only with his grandmother and a cat. Judging by the fact that the boy portrayed his father in the center of the picture, but separately from other family members, the father tries to give everyone equal attention, but is rarely at home, since he works a lot.

How to interpret a drawing by color

Normally, children usually paint bright and colorful pictures of their family. On average, they use 5-6 colors for coloring. Experts note that the more confident the kid is, the brighter his art looks. True, each kid has several especially favorite colors, which will prevail in the picture. However, in general, by the nature of the coloring of the picture, conclusions can be drawn about the current state of the child. So, light, bright or saturated colors speak of cheerfulness and comfortable well-being of the baby in the family. The predominance of red can indicate the emotional tension and irritability of the little artist. If the baby’s family is drawn in black and gray, it is worth thinking about the presence of hidden fears in the child, trying to understand the reasons why he is restless around loved ones. Interestingly, most often the baby paints the same color as himself, the family member for whom he has the greatest sympathy.

Children’s drawing and composition

Normally, the child usually draws his family in the central part of the sheet, the downward shift most often indicates the child’s low self-esteem, and upward – on the contrary, about the overestimated. The only children in the family most often paint themselves in the center of the composition between mom and dad. The family members that the child draws closest to his own image are usually the closest. It is also worth paying attention to the sequence in which the child draws household members: the one who is closer to the beginning, in the eyes of the child, takes a more significant position in the family. If a baby portrays himself aside from loved ones, this most often indicates a feeling of loneliness of the baby, a feeling of his uselessness to loved ones. In addition, such a composition is often chosen by children who experience jealousy and lack of parental attention after the birth of a brother or sister.

The absence of one of the family members in the picture is also considered an alarming sign. If this is the same little brother or sister, then the point is jealousy. If there is no mom or dad in the picture, this may mean that the baby has practically no psychological contact and emotional connection with this person at the moment. For example, if a child did not draw his little brother or sister, perhaps he is jealous of his parents and seeks to defend his right to their love. If there is no “artist” himself in the picture, it is worth considering that the baby feels rejected, unnecessary in the family. If a fictional family member appears in the picture, experts also note that the child is currently experiencing a lack of parental love.

Photo: Children’s Center “Petrushka”

Rake hands and clouds over the nursery

A case from one’s life: Oleg from Moscow began to worry that after starting school, his 7-year-old son began to show incomprehensible aggression and anger, began to obey poorly and even be rude to adults. Recently, the boy’s parents had to work a lot, the child spent most of the time with the nanny, so the adults decided to check if this was the reason for the changes in the child’s behavior. In the drawing, the boy depicted all family members, including the dog, he painted himself last. All the heroes were painted with bright colors, people are holding hands, drawn in a fairly proportional manner. The only thing that can alert the picture is the unnatural rake hands of the smallest author and clouds over the heads of the characters in the drawing.

Psychologist’s comment: Judging by the location of the characters in the picture, at the moment the child does not feel deprived of attention in the family. The only thing, not very good, is that he portrayed himself as the last one, this suggests that the boy subconsciously does not feel significant in the family. But the author’s unnatural rake hands can really speak of latent anger and aggression in the child. The clouds depicted above the family in the picture also testify to some negative emotions in the baby. In this case, it seems that the boy’s irritation does not come from the family, but from some external factors, possibly from the aggressive behavior of his classmates at school.

The position of the characters and proportions in the drawing:

The comfortable state of the child in the family, as a rule, is evidenced by the fact that all the characters are depicted in the correct proportions relative to reality. If a baby portrays himself as very small, it means that he feels insecure and insecure even in the circle of loved ones. As for the rest of the family and pets, the larger they are shown in the picture, the more role they play for the baby. The pose of the author himself in the picture is also of great importance. A happy and confident child is likely to depict himself with arms and legs outstretched, with all limbs drawn in detail according to the artist’s ability. Hands pressed to the body or covering the head indicate the child’s insecurity, perhaps adults too often scold or criticize him.

Drawings in which the author depicts himself as if hanging in the air, and not standing on the same plane with other family members, speak about the child’s negative emotions. Big eyes and brightly drawn pupils of the characters can indicate the anxiety of the baby, as well as the strong, with a clip, shading of the characters in the drawing. And the unnaturally huge rake hands of one of the characters, including the child himself, testify to the hidden anger of their owner.

Details in children’s art:

Psychologists believe that the complete absence of any details in the drawing of the child’s family indicates the isolation of its author. The opposite situation, when there are too many of these details, may indicate a hidden anxiety of the baby. The image of some specific objects in the picture also often indicates that the baby is not well in the family. For example, if, instead of people, a child draws a building where the family lives, then this may be a sign that the child is uncomfortable among those close to him. The image of the sun or a lamp can mean that the author of the picture lacks warmth in relations with loved ones. Clouds and clouds also indicate negative emotions that are bothering the baby at the moment, but they do not necessarily come from family members. The image of various toys or non-existent pets may indicate that the child does not have enough attention from loved ones.


1. The task to draw a family made the child happy.

2. All family members with whom the baby communicates closely are present in the picture.

3. Heroes are portrayed in proportion, no one looks unnaturally large or small.

4. All family members are close to each other, holding hands. All limbs of the characters are well traced.

5. The drawing is made in rich and bright colors without strong shading.


1. The kid does not want to draw his family or draws his house instead of people.

2. Excessively large or small size of individual family members.

3. The kid draws himself as the last member of the household, demonstrating that he means little in his family.

4. In the picture, one of the family members, the child himself, or a non-existent character appears.

5.Picturing yourself or loved ones with a closed face or unnaturally large hands.

6. The predominance of black, gray, brown and purple tones in the picture, the desire to draw your family with only a simple pencil.


– For analysis, you should not take drawings that children drew in kindergarten, school or art studio – they are usually performed according to certain criteria;

– If you want to correctly evaluate the colors used in the drawing, offer your child a full set of pencils and paints. Otherwise, the baby can draw a picture in dark colors only because they were at that moment at hand.

– You should not arrange an art test when the child is tired, offended or upset – the result will be uninformative, as it will show the state of the baby at the moment.

– Ask the child to describe his picture on his own, to tell what each of the characters feels, so it will be easier to correctly interpret the child’s art, especially if he is not very good at drawing.

– During the test, try not to praise or criticize the art of your child, otherwise it will be problematic to retest after a while, since the child will act according to a template, trying to please the parent.

Ministry of Internal Affairs asked for the right to take children from careless parents

The Ministry of Internal Affairs is in favor of obtaining the right to “temporary isolation” of children from their parents in cases where the child is in danger. In connection with what such a need has arisen and what will its implementation result in, will there not be abuses on the part of the police, the public’s trust in which leaves much to be desired? “MK” tried to understand this difficult issue.

Stanislav KOLESNIK, head of the Department for Ensuring Public Order and Coordination of Interaction with the Executive Authorities of the subjects of the Ministry of Internal Affairs, told MK:

– This problem is very urgent: the number of crimes against minors is increasing. Over the past four years, their number has increased by 90%. But when it comes to removing a child from the family, the Family Code gives such powers at the moment only to the guardianship authorities, which, of course, do not work around the clock. They are not on duty, as in law enforcement agencies. And when police officers receive a message about the dangerous situation of a child, they are forced to act independently.

We have the authority to pick up children who are in a state of neglect. We confiscate them, place them in social or medical institutions, and then they are dealt with by the guardianship authorities. But it happens in different ways. Let’s say we come to an apartment with drunk parents. The child is in danger. What to do in such a situation when guardianship has a day off? We, of course, take measures to protect him, but it turns out that the police officers are exceeding their powers …

We are not saying that we need to be empowered with unconditional powers in the matter of removing a child from a family, as some media outlets broadcast. It is necessary to work out a mechanism, an algorithm for the actions of all subjects who are involved in this process when the child is in danger.

– But there can be abuses by the police?

– We have been doing this work for many years. And excesses can be everywhere: both in excessive measures in responding to a situation, and in non-response. The human factor always exists. But the time has come to settle this issue.

– Are there people in the police specially trained to communicate with children?

– Of course, there are juvenile affairs units for this. Trained employees work there, many of them with pedagogical education.

Member of the Council under the Government of the Russian Federation on issues of guardianship in the social sphere, President of the Volunteers to Help Orphans Charity Fund Elena ALSHANSKAYA for its part, “MK” explained:

– Even now, in 90% of cases of actual selection of children from families, this is done by the police, and only in 10% it is done by guardianship. Indeed, at this time, the police are forced to act at the junction of the law: law enforcement agencies are forced to “pull by the ears” Article 120 of the Federal Law – when children can be taken away if they are left “without supervision,” although in fact the child has parents. Now only the guardianship authorities are empowered to take children away. Having seized the child, they must, within seven days, submit documents to the prosecutor’s office with a claim for deprivation or restriction of parental rights. But, firstly, it is difficult to collect such a package of documents in seven days, and secondly, it completely closes the child’s path back to the family. The law does not provide for a third option: that you can not deprive anyone of their rights, not limit their rights, but for example, return the child back, work with the family. After all, it is not known whether this is a one-time situation or a permanent one.

– Do you think there can be abuses on the part of the police if you give them the powers in question?

– A big minus of police visits is that they are used to seeing danger where it might not actually be. The police, I suspect, are now making child removal decisions more often than social services. You need to find an adequate option. To avoid these excessive selections. I would suggest not giving these powers to the police if there is no corpus delicti. Nevertheless, I am inclined to change the system of guardianship bodies. It is necessary to strengthen personnel, to make guardianship working around the clock, or at least to bring on duty. And then we can tell the police: these are not your stories.

Another important point: we must have places where we could move not only the child who is in danger, but also other family members. We do not have such temporary places. Therefore, it is necessary to change and build this entire system. And also such a moment: it is necessary to provide for the possibility so that the child can be quickly and painlessly transferred to relatives or acquaintances of adults immediately, without registration of guardianship or having issued it in an hour. And it is not necessary to take him either to this unfortunate hospital, where he will be alone in the ward, or to the shelter.

Parents are outraged by plans to extend antiquarian measures in schools for a year

Rospotrebnadzor plans to extend measures to prevent covid in schools and childcare facilities for another year. And if few people object to thermometry, sanitizers and air disinfectants, since they are also effective for the prevention of influenza and SARS, many participants in the educational process rebelled against the prohibition of mass events in schools, assigning an office to each class, etc.

MK has listened to the opinions of experts on this matter.

So far, the established rules are valid until January 1, 2021, but it is planned to change the date to “January 1, 2022”. Chairman of the St. Petersburg City Parents’ Committee Mikhail Bogdanov perplexed:

– Where can we extend the grounds for a year? We already have vaccination will soon be widely used! And when children don’t communicate, they get stressed …

– The prolongation of which measures cause the biggest indignation among parents?

– Firstly, linking children to one classroom seriously affects the quality of the educational process. If children are sitting in their class, and they need to go to the chemistry classroom for experiments, it may be busy – there are not enough classrooms in schools because of these rules. But the biggest problem is the prohibition of mass events in which different classes can participate. Children still meet at breaks, outside of school they instantly mix up, go to shopping malls together, walk in yards, etc. Cancellation of school-wide events is very harmful – no concerts, no Teacher’s Day or Mother’s Day, no New Year …

Viktor Panin, Chairman of the All-Russian Society for the Protection of Citizens’ Rights in Education, member of the Expert Council under the Government of the Russian Federation I am convinced that “the authorities must act flexibly in a situation of uncontested pandemic reality and make decisions taking into account changing circumstances”:

– I would consider such statements of officials as a provocation. Moreover, the official structures assure us that mass vaccination is not far off. I think that the opinion of the population is being probed, is it ready to continue all these measures in a tough format, is it ready to endure? We need to look at the situation as soberly as possible. At the moment, at the peak of morbidity, these measures are justified, but it is impossible to predict what the situation will be in a month, in six months, and even more so at the end of the year. We don’t hear such statements from top-level officials, but lower-ranking officials, the same Rospotrebnadzor, are trying to play it safe and impose their own vision of the situation. This is unjustified today.

We also asked the opinion of co-chairman of the trade union “Teacher” Vsevolod Lukhovitsky:

– The authorities have shifted the execution of the requirements of Rospotrebnadzor to the schools themselves. And then everything depends on educational institutions: in those schools where active parents and sensible teachers, everything is organized more or less normally. In those cases where no one asked neither teachers nor parents when building the timetable, and there are most of them, it became much more difficult for children and teachers to learn. The main thing is not to try one and all to fulfill the recommendations of Rospotrebnadzor, because it is technically impossible. Gradually, schools could somehow adapt to this situation, but a few things get in the way. The need to prepare children for exams after grades 9 and 11 keeps teachers under tremendous stress. If the ministry had already announced that in connection with this situation (like this summer) we are canceling the OGE after the 9th grade, we still give the opportunity to take the exam only to those who enter universities, then the school and parents would feel much freer. And it would also be good if the ministry again said that we will not carry out the CDP. And, of course, the school in the current conditions, when there is a likelihood of some regions reaching the distance, requires additional funding. Give not only 5 thousand for the classroom leadership, as was given in September from federal funds, but also give additional money to teachers for the purchase of the Internet, technical means of communication, etc.

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Removed from the law: parents fear online will destroy traditional schools

The number of parents opposing online education is growing rapidly in the country. Adults are afraid that the distance in schools can be introduced on an ongoing basis, and the coronavirus pandemic only accelerates the digitalization of education previously planned by the authorities.

These fears are not unfounded. On November 18, the State Duma will consider a bill on distance education in Russia. The State Duma Committee on Education and Science recommended the document for adoption in the first reading. The new law will define the powers of the Ministry of Education and Science and the Ministry of Education in terms of regulating the procedure for using e-learning and distance technologies in educational institutions.

The State Duma was recommended to approve the bill on distance education

In recent weeks, protests against remote control have been taking place in different regions of Russia. Parents are organizing large-scale flash mobs against remote removal on social networks, boycotting online classes for whole classes and collecting signatures under appeals to the authorities. Despite accusations of COVID dissidence, the movement is gathering more and more supporters. We found out what really drives adults to demand to return their children to school, despite the threat of coronavirus infection.

“The fight against remoteness is not a story at all about COVID, but about the large-scale destruction of Russian education that has been happening in the last 15-20 years,” says Ekaterina, an opponent of remote control from Yekaterinburg. – Plans for large-scale digitalization of schools appeared among officials 10 years ago, the pandemic only accelerated these processes. The experiment on the implementation of the Digital educational environment, which started in the fall in 15 regions of the country without parental consent, was approved by the former Minister of Education Olga Vasilyeva at the end of 2019. In federal projects for the development of education for the coming years, it is stated in plain text that by 2024 at least 70% of schools must implement education in electronic form. All of these goals were set long before the pandemic. We do not deny that distance can be used as a temporary measure in emergency situations, as well as on an ongoing basis with parental consent. Of course, electronic technology is essential for learning, for example, for children with disabilities who are unable to attend school. However, we do not want an equal sign between the distance and the point.

Parents are outraged and surprised that while the doors of public schools, circles and sections have closed for children, private educational organizations continue to work safely. It comes to the ridiculous, in the same sports center, children cannot be engaged in budgetary sections, but they can do it in paid ones. It turns out that full-time education is now available only to those who can pay?

“In recent years, parents and teachers have already lost in the struggle for education in all positions,” says Alena, mother of a 7th grade student from St. Petersburg. – We could not fight off, including from the Unified State Exam, from the introduction of low-quality textbooks instead of time-tested manuals, every year the quality of education decreases. If we keep quiet, then just as quietly in a few years we may face the fact that free classes will be held only at a distance, and we will have to pay for full-time classes. The maintenance of educational institutions is very expensive for the state, and the general retirement may well solve this problem. We see this threat as real, in this regard, we demand to legalize distance learning as one of the forms of education that can be used only at the request of parents or in the event of an emergency that applies to all schools, both public and private. Now we are faced with the fact that directors of educational institutions, in response to our complaints, declare that teaching with the use of distance learning technologies is equivalent to full-time. The teacher, on the other hand, conducts classes in real time, which, they say, you still need.

In the meantime, many children have already had health problems in online education. In addition, the distance has hurt the socialization of schoolchildren, and a prolonged lack of normal communication can turn into very long-term consequences for some children.

“Young people today have spent too much time in the virtual world even without remote control,” says another parent, Natalya. – Many teenagers no longer really go for a walk, but communicate with friends only on social networks. And this is a serious social problem that distance learning only exacerbates. My 9th-grader daughter has been studying online for a month now, the circle she went to does not work, as a result, it is no longer possible to drag her out even to the street to walk with the dog. But what can we say, even convincing to wear normal clothes instead of pajamas does not always work. Many children started having health problems in the spring: their eyesight falls, their head and back hurt, their sleep is disturbed, and some children have apathy and depression. So it turns out that the authorities, while fighting one threat, create another one for children, possibly even greater, the consequences of which we, parents, will have to clear up.

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